Friends are supposed to support you through good times and bad--but if your friend is jealous, she might be booing when you're happy and cheering when times are rough. Coping with jealous friends isn't easy. Sometimes you can help them get through their insecurities, but other times it's best to cut all ties.
1. Understand your friend's feelings. Jealous friends envy you because they wish they had what you had. Decide whether your friend is insecure about her love life, looks, income, clothes, intelligence or something else. Think about whether your friend would be more secure if she had what she envies, or if you suspect she'd still find something to be jealous about.
2. Call your friend on her jealous behavior. If she rolls her eyes when you order an ice cream sundae because she's always on a diet, tell her point blank that you're going to enjoy your dessert whether she rolls her eyes or not. If she teases you about your new jewelry, tell her you love your brand new diamonds. Be confident rather than apologizing for making her jealous, since her jealousy isn't your fault.
3. Help your friend to be more secure. Her insecurities should be painfully obvious by her jealous behavior--so build her up so she feels better about herself.
4. Stand up to rude behavior. Just because your friend feels bad about her lack of education doesn't mean she can call you a nerd.
5. Expect all of your friends to support you through good times and bad. Your friend might be jealous that you're pregnant and she's not, but if she doesn't genuinely congratulate you, she's not a good friend. If your best buddy is happy that you crashed that new sports car he used to envy, he's not good friend material either.
Good Luck & find out what's best for you to do!
xoxo RitzyNina
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